Now let me give you some background. She's been dating the same guy for 2 years and they broke up 6 months ago. Or I guess they went on a break. In my opinion, they are terrible together. He's jealous and controlling. She's obsessive and clingy. Now maybe this works for them. Or I guess it doesn't seeing that they aren't together anymore. But thats not the point. She has decided she wants to get back together. He doesn't trust her. They're taking it slow.
I differ from my roommate in that I don't need to be with anyone. I'm perfectly fine by myself (this is due to my complete irrational fear of commitment, but thats for another time). She wants to get back together with him because she needs to feel this void in her life. The void left by him. He was terrible to her, at least in the last 5 months in their relationship. Now this may not be fair because that is the only time of their relationship I ever witnessed. According to her, they were perfect. People told them all the time that everyone wished they had their relationship. But I just can't see it. I only see his need for her to be under his control. And her need to be attached to him, or anyone for that matter. Is this really what relationships are based on?
I've only been in one relationship. It lasted 3 months and I was 15. Needless to say I'm not an expert in relationships. But I'd like to think that they are about more than what my roommates is about. I'd like to believe that it's based on love. I'd like to believe in love. Hell, I'd like to believe there is someone out there I could actually love. But for now, it's only me.
It sure is a good think I'm so good at loving myself :)
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